Time – to Waste or Not to Waste?


What We All Take for Granted

Time is the one thing we all take for granted in one way or another.  

Last week while I was off from work and celebrating Thanksgiving with my family, I spent a lot of quiet time with God just reflecting on my life.  So many times, I even stopped and just stared at my son, reflecting on what God has done in his life.  At least until he would say, “mom, stop staring, are you ok?”  LOL.

I was overwhelmed with excitement, gratefulness and joy.  He didn’t know it, but I also had tears.  Happy tears.  Just pondering the goodness of God and thankful for His continuous blessings in our lives.  

I’ve officially been a single mom for the last 7 years and each year that my son and I get through, I look back in retrospect as I marvel at all the ways God has been with us every step of the way.  That’s a story in and of itself.  But, my point today is ‘time’.

For the last 7 years, two things have been my sole focus and driving motivation – God and my son.  I vowed: 

  1. in spite of all the terrible things I had been through that I would never stop serving God 
  2. that I would raise my son the best way I possibly could and teach him to serve God also

My son is 12 years old now.  He’s intelligent, funny, extremely active, and has a strong sense of sarcasm that mirrors my own.  I don’t miss our mother-son time for anything or anyone.  We have our daily routines which include chatting about our days, eating dinner together, and me randomly bursting into his room to scare or tickle him (really to check on him).  Although he would tell you its annoying.  

Then we have our mother-son Saturdays once a month – shopping, a movie, going out to eat, or simply running errands and spending his allowance on something of his choosing.  But outside of all that, it’s the brief random moments that I love the most.  Those times when he says things like “mom, you’re the best”.  Or in his prayer, he prays for my strength to take care of him.  Or when he gives me a hug for no reason and says ‘I love you mom’.  Oh, and lets not forget the times of confession – when right before bed he wants to confess something he did wrong that day. LOL.

Making the Most of Time with Those You Love

But time.  The one thing that once its gone you never get back. I could go into a whole speech about parents needing to spend more time with their kids, but I understand we all have different situations, schedules and circumstances. So since this blog is about me sharing with you what God is teaching me through His Word, I’ll make it simple and just encourage all parents to simply learn to not only spend time with your kids, but to enjoy and savor it in the process.

Unless there is some medical condition or legal restriction that prevents you from doing so, God has commanded those of us who are parents to do just that!

Proverbs 22:6 (KJV):  “Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it.”

I’ve never known any type of training that didn’t require time, effort, energy, focus, patience, and sometimes even sacrifice.  I’m nowhere near the perfect parent.  In fact, I stay in the Word daily so I can have my ‘train the trainer’ sessions with God, to help me develop into the mother He has called me to be.  

This timing thing hit me hard, because the first 5 years of my son’s life I had little to no time for him.  I woke him up, bathed him, got him dressed, sent him to daycare, picked him up, fed him, bathed him and put him to bed…..rinse and repeat.

No relationship, no communication, no time. I was busy with work, school, church, my business, life, etc.  With little time to really be a parent.  And when my marriage came to an end, I realized just how little time I had given to the things that were supposed to be most important in my life.

From then on, I decided to shift my priorities and with God’s continuous strength and guidance, I am learning to give my son the proper time that I should. 

And for those of you who aren’t parents, I encourage you to spend quality time with your loved ones. Your parents, grandparents, friends, etc.  Or maybe you’re married and not spending enough time with your spouse.  Whatever the case may be, I just know, according to the bible, a big part of what God has called us to do with our lives as Christians, is to show love. 

So amidst all the million and one things that we run around and do all day, we still have to make time for those God has placed in our lives.  Depending on the relationship – time to love, teach, encourage, pray with, listen to, laugh with, cry with, and much more.

You’re probably saying to yourself, “its easier said than done”.  I used to say the same thing – for years on end!  It wasn’t until after so much time had passed and been wasted that I finally listened to His Word:

hour glass with quote from Ephesians

In fact if you want to know more about how we should really be spending our time living for God – then read the whole chapter 5 in Ephesians!

And What About Quality Time with God?

It saddens me to know that so many Christians spend very little, to no time reading God’s Word and praying.  The devil certainly is pleased with what has become our modern day Christian society.  I won’t digress too much in this post, but to find out the key benefits that so many Christians are passing up by NOT learning the bible be sure to READ THIS!

For now, I can only testify of what I absolutely KNOW to be true.  And that is this:

We are kidding ourselves if we think we don't NEED to spend time in God’s Word to not only survive, but to endure and enjoy this life!

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I spend time in God's Word daily and through His Word he teaches me to be and do the things He's called me to do.  Because of his Word and the transformation it has done in my life, I am not the same person I used to be.  I'm not angered by the people and things that used to so easily upset me.  I don't care or worry about things that used to stress me out and give me anxiety.  I don't complain, cry and get frustrated like I used to.    

And it is not because the people and situations around me have changed.  In fact some of the people and situations have actually gotten worse!  But, its because I have a God who gives me such strength and peace, that I don't even recognize the foolishness around me anymore.  It's there, but it's not!

My life is not easy and its not smooth sailing by any definition.  But, because I know that life is going to be a daily challenge anyway, I choose to live each day by clinging to God.  I know for certain, I couldn't handle it any better on my own!

Just try it - start putting God first by spending more time with Him.  NOT "doing" more things for Him.  But, by reading His Word and allowing Him to speak to you daily.  In fact, I'll go as far as daring you to do it on a consistent basis!  I dare you to switch your priorities and start giving God more time in your life.  Then watch Him start to do more in your life in the process.

.......Or You Can Just Live It Up!

Society teaches that we only have one life to live and that we should spend it by doing what we want, when we want, with whomever we want, how we want it.  Sounds amazing right?  And the devil has used this imagery of the "perfect life" to  deceive Christians into thinking that true pleasure and enjoyment cannot be attained with God.

However, the Word of God teaches, that apart from Christ, we can't even begin to truly enjoy life to the fullest.  

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The things we think will bring pleasure and enjoyment will only end up leading us to more misery, pain and frustration.

After 27 years of being a Christian, I'm just now really beginning to learn that God's way is the only way!  The funny thing is,  when we seek Him first, when we actually start to make more time for God in our lives - He starts to change our way of thinking, so that the things we want to do, start lining up with what He wants for us anyway.

Time with God = Time Never Wasted!

Time with God = Changing your Life!

Time with God = Blessings - Guaranteed!

....According to the Mirror of His God's Word!

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Time – to Waste or Not to Waste?